Tuesday, April 29, 2014

The Strong and The Weak

I'm reading a book by Paul Tournier its called The Strong and The Weak.  Published in 1963 and I think originally written in the late 1940's ... it's really an amazing book by a man some say was the most influential Christian phsycian and counselor of the last century. 

I find myself surprised at how often the things that were happening in culture of those days are the very same we deal with today.

Conflict in relationships is probably the greatest weakness we are faced today as a nation.  Here are a few excerpts I've found quite interesting. 

I hope you find a nugget of information that will be helpful for you in your daily life.


“One can never foresee the means that God will use  to touch a man’s heart, the roads along which he will drive him, nor the moment at which he will intervene in his life.  It may be at the height of happiness, or in the midst of a painful crisis.  It may be within a fervent religious community, or in utter solitude.  It may be by means of a slow process of evolution, or quite suddenly and unexpectedly.  But it is always through the free intervention of the Spirit.”

 

“Constraint is the negation of all spiritual life.  We can help others by telling them of our experiences and convictions.  But let us have the honesty to tell them of our failures and doubts as well.  Above all, we must beware of the natural inclination which makes us think that others must come to faith by the same road as ourselves.  If we exert any sort of pressure upon them, we shall inevitably harm them.  Pressure of that kind will either force their decision, in which case we shall be usurping God’s place; or else it will arouse their resistance, and we shall have become for them an obstacle to faith.”

 

“The rewarding thing about introspection of this sort is not so much what one discovers as the fact that one discovers it.  in fact, as we perceive, time and time again, that we are more bankrupt than we imagined, that the things we thought we could put down on the credit side must often rather be put down as debits, that weakness hides even under our strong reactions, we undergo the most fruitful of human experiences.  We abandon our futile attempts to save ourselves from our inner disquiet by means of victories in the social struggle, by drawing comfort from our reputation and all that we do to fortify it.  Rather do we turn at last towards God, the only true answer to human distress.”

That is the only way to get the insight which will enable us to discriminate in our own lives between genuine acts of will and mere automatic reactions – we must turn towards God in prayer.” … “In the silence before God we soon see that this action or that remark was not in conformity with his will, that they were weak or strong reactions, cowardly flight or proud bravado, the aim of which in either case was to preserve us from our uneasy conscience. 

                In the silence before God we thus come gradually to a better knowledge of ourselves; we come to know more clearly , at one and the same time, what are our weaknesses and sins and the quite new road we must follow in order to overcome them – that we must confess them in order to receive the divine pardon, instead of hiding them in order to receive the praises of men.

                Prayer will not deliver us from our natural reactions, whether weak or strong; but it will bring us to recognize them for what they are, and thus continually to fresh experiences of grace.”

 

“Does mans value lie in his strength, in his aptitude for elbowing his way through life, for extricating himself from difficulties, for defending himself and imposing his will on others?  Such are the questions which crowd in on our minds.

                A man’s true value consists in his likeness to God.  What gives value to his thoughts, his feelings and his actions, is the extent to which they are inspired by God, the extent to which they express the thought, the will, and the acts of God.  Sometimes, it is God’s power which is manifested in a man’s courage, in the authority with which he speaks and the strength with which he acts.  But sometimes, also, it is Gods tenderness which we observe in the heart of one who is weak, his creative suffering that we discover in a tormented soul.”

               

“The fact is that our whole civilization suggests to us a false scale of values.  It accords positive value to all that is strong, and negative value to all that is weak.  It is shameful to be weak, sensitive, pitiable, or affectionate.”

 

“What mankind needs in our day, if its to escape the catastrophe towards which it is being led by our rationalist and technical civilization, is just these qualities of kindness, conscience, emotion, sensitiveness, beauty, and intuition, which lie repressed and asleep deep in the hearts of those whom that civilization despises.

                These are real ‘ frozen assets’.  Instead of being mobilized as a matter of urgency, they are locked up in broken lives, which are discarded because they are labeled ‘weak’.”

 

“But we are well aware that along with our successes we have known defeat, and that no doctrine and no experience has been able to preserve us from it.  And the further we advance in the Christian life the more we become aware of our sin.  It is as if weights were continually being added to one of the pans of a balance; and each time this happens we need more of God’s grace in the other pan in order to re-establish the equilibrium.  But this equilibrium is always unstable, so that the very slightest weight is enough to upset it; discouragement and doubt are at our door.  it is then that we are tempted to shut our eyes to our defeats, to go back to the old method of covering up by means of strong reactions – and the temptation is the greater the further we think we have advanced along the road of the spiritual life.  But to do so would be at the same time to deprive ourselves of the grace which alone can redress the balance.”

 

“God wants us to love in ourselves the person created by him in his image, worthy of being tended with care, of being protected so that it may grow properly.  It must indeed be pruned, but so that it may bring forth fruit, not so as to destroy it.”

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